Oh, dear-- such a tale, earthgirl! But you got through it all and seem to be all the stronger. Still married to the same DH I wed 26 years ago, on a colonial barge on the canal in Georgetown (DC). Lovely small wedding, although my mother did everything she could to sabotage it. World War III with her, but we held fast and had OUR wedding, OUR way. For a year after, our friends kept saying how much fun they had at our wedding. So did we!