My heart breaks knowing two of my friends are dealing with the recent death of a parent right now.  That's a tough one.  It takes so long for it to really sink in.  You find yourself thinking of phoning your parent so share some little thrill or interesting event in your life, and then you have to remember over and over again--oh, yeah, they're gone.  I'm sending both you, Pam, and you, Bob, big cyber- hugs and lots of love.